I once knew someone who told me about how the tapes she was listening to had helped her realize how much she needed to refocus her energy towards people that would be supportive and positive in her life. When she told me about her experiences with unfaithful friends and how those losses affected her, I couldn't help but reflect on my lost friendships. I gave up at one point in my life, submitting to the idea that I just wasn't fit to have real friends. It wasn't until I revived my hope in others that I was able to attach one puzzle piece to another. Consistency is the key. When someone is consistently patient, understanding, available, supportive, and present; they have the most robust capability of really caring. I examined other people's energy and responses towards me. As I began to find inconsistencies I flagged them as flakes. Their feelings and regard are not genuine. I've learned that when someone feels strongly for someone else, then they can become unaware of how much they desire to make them happy and do whatever they can to make them happy - naturally. Surface emotions never get far or last very long. It’s the deep seeded feelings that produce stable relationships of any kind. That is where consistency lies.
Consistency from someone gets created when they feel very sure about the other. It’s when insecurity enters the relationship that gaps start to happen, and anyone in the relationship begins to question either themselves or the other. My life was once full of inconsistencies and just plain crazy. Now that I have stability, everyone sees me and treats me differently. I even draw different kinds of people in my life. All I have to do is observe consistency in others to know how reliable they are with their efforts towards me. Quitters have no place in my life. I shouldn't have to wonder if someone still feels positive towards me, or suddenly learn that someone has changed their mind about me. It's unfair. I have factored out most people from my life and circle because they are unreasonably private about themselves, or they have very selfish tendencies. I give as much of myself to everyone that I ask of as well. Instead of giving myself to those that will only suck me dry. I'm finding it much more rewarding to keep a good rapport with everyone who cares to help me genuinely. The golden rule is real, it’s true, and applies to everything and everyone.