I have strong opinions about parenting and a tremendous love for children. I have seen too many examples of children that get neglected, ignored, abused, and used. Sometimes I feel hurt by it, other times I feel angry. Even if they are not my children, I feel quite protective of them.
Throughout my adolescence, I was amused by little children. I could see their innocence and be fascinated with their ability to be so forgiving. Since then I have had a great respect for them. Most of my female friends back then had children too early. I watched some of those children grow up and was shocked by the ways they were getting raised. No morals, guidance, love, or healthy boundaries. Witnessing this trend as I transitioned into adulthood made me grateful that I never had children too young.
I once believed that I was not fit to be a mother because of my lack of responsibility. I recognized at an early age that I would not be able to care for a child, much less give them the attention and love they deserved. As I became mature, I came to feel more capable of becoming a mother and eventually wanted children of my own. I know what it takes to be a good mom, and although I don't know everything about good parenting; it is a starting point.
When it comes to caring for a child, I believe in planning everything that could get planned. I also think that a child deserves lots and lots of attention and love. They deserve to be raised in a structured home so that they know what to expect from their environment. A child deserves a loving father and mother. There should be no circumstance that would make a child question the love they receive from their parents.
I feel that a mother's number one priority is to love their children no matter what, even if they are physically challenged, hoodlums, straight A students, gang members, criminals, defiant, or a nuisance to society. No matter how a child chooses to live, they deserve the love of both parents. Parents don't have to support what they do; they just have to love them. If they can't do that, they should not be parents. No child deserves to be thrown away, neglected or loved any less for the choices they make.
So what if they date someone that their parents don't like? So what if they are doing badly in school? So what if they are in and out of jail? Parents can't disown a child for things like this. Doing so shows that they had children just for the heck of it or because they want to control them. A parent that unconditionally loves their child will stick by their side through anything.